Last night our ward was invited to another ward for their activity night. This ward has decided to invite one ward from the stake every month to join them. Another ploy for meeting new people and such, which I think would be pretty fun depending on the activity at hand. Ours last night was not the case. I don't mind them wanting us to get to know other people and such, but some of the games that they have us play are just ridiculous and put everyone in really awkward situations. When I got there they were playing a game that looked pretty fun, but since I was late I just got to watch, but they were all intertwined and had to get all out of the group into one big circle. Looked like fun, and turned out to be the least awkward game of the night. They next had us get in lines, boys and girls and gave each of us a number. We were then supposed to get in groups of our numbers and prepare for the fate of which ever weird game was heading our way. I don't know if there is a name for the game, I'm sure there is but basically we got in boy girl fashion, each took a tooth pick and were given a lifesaver. The rules of the game are as follows get the live saver from first to last and then back without touching it or letting it hit the ground. Basically we had to get as close as humanly possible to people we didn't really know at all and pass along this candy. My team won, but it was still pretty weird. We then played kissing rugby. Basically the guys are given a letter, the girls a number and someone starts in the middle, boy or girl. A number is called and a letter and if the person in the middle is a girl, the guy has to get to her and give her a kiss while the other girl tries to stop him. Likewise it's the other way for the girls.
They then took us into a room where we were to line up on tables girls on one side and boys the other. The basic rules of speed dating are this. Each guy is given an amount of time to talk to each girl in the room. Basically it's a really fast version of a first date.....in my opinion it's a pretty stupid way to get to know a person. So much info is thrown at you from so many different people at one time that it has to be hard to remember it all if any of it. So basically we just go through the motions. There were a couple girls that were pretty fun to talk to, but most of them just kinda sat there like ok go ahead....This is what I don't get, can't they come up with any other games that don't include us doing exactly what we do every Sunday? Just sit and talk. It's funny because our ward is so close. We love being together and doing whatever. Yes we have our clicks, but everyone is pretty chill with each other. We have all noticed that in so many other wards this is just not the case. Not always that they dislike each other or anything like that, but it's very rarely that they embrace other wards. Ex. When this whole putting together of YSA wards into stakes was put into play by the church they hoped that people would be able to meet get married and so on, because everything they did was meant to put us together lots more. Our ward was moved out of the building we were in because it was also a family ward building and moved down to a building where there is now 3 wards. One for the handicapped then 2 singles wards. We initially were put together and had church at the same time. The switch was that one ward went to sacrament first and the other ward started with classes first. We had a munch and mingle I think twice a month. This was all done to see if this would work. Not only did it not work, but we were asked by the other wards bishop to switch our time because they didn't like dealing with us. I just laughed at this. It was pretty dang obvious that their plan wasn't going to work though. Each ward was set in their ways and friends and hardly if ever talked to one another. Munch and Mingle was supposed to make us mingle and talk with one another, but each ward sat on one side of the church and never talked to the other. It's great that they want us to meet one another and all, but I think some of the ideas lack luster....basically forcing a bunch of teens to do things they really don't want to do never really works. It usually gets the exact opposite reaction. Which is what I have noticed a lot of in the last few months. I hope the dating world around here starts to change soon though. Either that or I need to find the club that is out there of people that actually want to get married. Instead of just hanging out, or dating everyone and their dogs till they get bored....Not my lifestyle anymore...But it's getting harder and harder to find a way out. Thus we will continue to do participate in the awkward speed dating games and forced love days...
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